What a SLUT!

By: Elise Favis

People’s sex lives should be personal and private, not thrown onto center stage so people can carelessly throw tomatoes at the SLUT.

Insecurity and self esteem are two major issues for today’s female youth. Confidence is usually gained through trial and error. We learn from our mistakes, and then we move on. Aggressive bullying, on the other hand, can diminish a victim’s self worth and aggravate problems.

Psychologists are calling “slut-bashing” a form of bullying and sexual harassment. This method of bullying involves teenage girls labelling one another with insults such as whore and slut. Commonly, the word slut is used to describe a girl that has no sexual boundaries, or is conniving and backstabbing.

Aiming this insult to someone can be very hurtful and damaging, as well as ruin their reputation. It should never be thrown at someone because of their personal life or their sexual orientation. Really, we’re in CEGEP now – we’re all adults, and it’s about time we took responsibility for our own actions. We don’t need to gossip and bash a girl who we believe may be ‘scandalous’. Aren’t we past that? Let’s stop following the group and take our own individualistic stand on things for once!

Through high school, I was aware of the commonly phrased word, “slut.” At the time, this is how I understood its definition: girls that hit puberty quicker and wore revealing clothes were referred to as skanks and sluts. This is what I was taught by friends, and sometimes even by adults. In my young teens, I thought it was natural to describe a girl as a slut for how they dressed and how they acted. I realize now that this is completely judgemental and ignorant. Who am I to judge?

What makes me so righteous and superior to her? It’s not my place to tell someone what they should and shouldn’t do. I may not agree, but we all live our own lives, don’t we?

Around Dawson, I still hear girls bashing one another with cruel words such as whore and slut, and these retorts come from men as well. Do women not only have to be mistreated by men, but also by their own gender?

If you look at the male teenage population, they receive a completely different reaction from their guy friends about sex. The reaction is mostly positive for the male, and he has no fear of being discriminated against by others of the same gender. Why do females have to go through the painful dramas of labelling when the guy gets off scot free with the possible glory bonus?

I’m not saying a girl who goes out and has sex with strangers, or sleeps with their best friend’s boyfriend has good habits and should be proud of this. Rather, this is unhealthy and some would call it immoral. But, it still isn’t right for us to humiliate her – people make mistakes. Leave it behind and move on. I really think slut-bashing is disgraceful, and makes our generation look, to put it bluntly, stupid and rude. It also has to do with what we are exposed to, though. Public media, advertising, and shows like Jersey Shore sure give us shitty influences.
Nevertheless, let me say this: next time you want to call someone a slut, please refrain, and turn away. Think before you speak. Is it really that difficult?

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One response to “What a SLUT!

  1. Salut Elise,
    J’ai trouvé le titre de cet article très accrocheur, il a piqué ma curiosité. Beaucoup aimé les points que tu as apporté et le fait de suggérer au lecteur de prendre un recul. En peu de mots tu en dit beaucoup. Bravo!

    Rébecca

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