Many people think they have what it takes before ‘hitting the hay’.
However, this may not be the case as Tanya Boyce studies sex myths in-depth to see what is needed to maximise your partner’s pleasure.
by Tanya Boyce
Aside from sex being vital to the growth of the population and a primitive desire, it is the solution to boredom, the exercise of the day, and the pursuit of the evening. However, it is also one of the subjects with the most misconceptions about it. There are no guidelines that guarantee satisfaction with each partner and so many succumb to the unrealistic ideals that the media supplies. Although we might prefer to consider ourselves educated or experienced when it comes to sex, individuals continue to believe in the copious amounts of absurd sex myths floating around.
Walt Disney, as much as we may love flying carpets and mermaids, has emphasized the concept that intimacy is only reached after falling helplessly in love and walking into the sunset. Sexuality, in Disney’s world, only becomes apparent after the conventional happy ending. Yes, Disney films are generally made for the entertainment of prepubescent boys and girls but the films are still suggesting a notion that is completely unrealistic. It is unreasonable to assume that sexual activity proceeds only after a sort of quixotic relationship. According to a study made in 2003 by Statistics Canada, an estimated 28% of 15 to 17-year-olds reported having had sexual intercourse at least once in their lives. By ages 20 to 24, the proportion was 80%. Simply because an individual is sexually active does not mean that they have acquired full knowledge on the subject.
It should seem ridiculous that some believe that urine will extirpate sperm, yet somehow nonsense like this continues to be rumored. If the female urinates after intercourse it will not prevent pregnancy. Urine comes out of the urethra, a completely different opening, and will not ‘flush’ out sperm.The belief that having sex standing up can prevent pregnancy is just as preposterous. It does not matter what position is being held, if a condom or other form of contraceptive is not being used, there is an elevated chance of pregnancy.
One of biggest misconceptions is that ‘pulling out’ before ejaculating will prevent pregnancy. Dawn Stacey M.Ed, LMHC, a former family planning specialist, health educator, and pregnancy options counselor for Planned Parenthood, says there are several reasons why withdrawing is unreliable.
“Once a male becomes aroused, he ejects pre-ejaculate fluid. This fluid can contain at least 300,000 sperm and it only takes 1 to join an egg” said Stacey.
“There is also the risk that he doesn’t pull out in time as, in the heat of the moment, it can be hard to keep control. Even if he ejaculates outside of the vagina, sperm can swim, so semen anywhere near the vagina can still lead to pregnancy.”
Another common misconception is that women cannot get pregnant if it is their first sexual experience or if they are on their period. Stacey explains that while females menstruate it means that they are not ovulating. However, there is still a risk involved. “Females with irregular or shorter cycles canactually ovulate during their period. It is not guaranteed that you will ovulate mid-cycle,” said Stacey. “Sperm can live inside a woman’s body for up to five days, so if you ovulate anytime within seven days of having unprotected sex, you could become pregnant.”
Misconceptions on pregnancy prevention are not the only sex myths being spread. In a society where success is often measured by the size of things, we’re not only considering the big houses, big cars, or big wallets. The importance of the size of things below the waist has been constantly debated. Once in between the sheets, many men have insecurities about their penis size. Bianca Nowlin, a fourth semester student, comments on how men feel obliged to have a larger penis to be satisfactory in bed.
“Guys these days, in a generation that’s bombarded with porn and the mentality that bigger is better, think they have to have a huge dick to be acceptable or desirable or good in bed,” said Nowlin.
“Sadly, they have a sort of mental disposition where they think they’re inadequate.”
So does size really matter? Well, only the lower third of the vagina has hyper-pleasure nerves. The most sensitive areas are the clitoris and an inch or two inside. So no, a larger penis does not necessarily mean better sex. Just to whip out a fact, the average penis size, erect, is between five and six inches. The vagina, unaroused, is approximately three inches across the anterior wall and about three and a half inches long across the posterior wall. The size of the vagina varies when aroused and can be up to eight inches in depth. However, that does not mean women like the complete “fill”. Some women might say it doesn’t hurt to have a larger penis. But actually, if a man’s penis is large, his thrusts can be painful if hitting the cervix too hard.
Although there are still women who truly believe their sexual experiences will be more satisfying if a man is larger, there are also many women who, and excuse the cliché phrase, believe it’s not how deep the fish but how you wiggle your worm.
Another misconception associated with sex are the bizarre aphrodisiacs suggested to improve the quality of sex. For thousands of years herbal aphrodisiacs were believed to improve sexual experiences. Many studies have been made on specific herbs and their effect on libido, however it’s unfortunate that there are also those who take advantage of this idea and use it as a way to make money off gullible sexually frustrated individuals. There’s really no need to spend money on silly products that claim they can improve the quality the sex because there are several natural aphrodisiacs that people aren’t aware off.
One of which, is red meat. The protein in meat, dopamine, is an essential chemical to sex. Dopamine will flow to the brain and give your body a power surge.
If red meat isn’t a favorite then try to include salmon and mackerel in your regiment. The omega-3 fatty acids from the fish will smooth out the nervous systems. During sex, it helps the bloodstream’s circulation throughout the body’s most vital parts. If fish doesn’t sound appetizing then go for some cashews, walnuts, chickpeas, granola, peanuts and even oatmeal. They manipulate the bloodstream in a similar way.
Many have probably heard that drinking pineapple juice will make semen taste better. Pineapple juice and other sweet fruit juices have been proven to ameliorate the taste of semen. But what people don’t often hear is that consuming large amounts of coffee, beer, or anything bitter will likely make it taste worst. Avoiding cabbage, kale, asparagus and onions will also help. Don’t believe the advertisements that claim a tiny pill will make sex better. It’s probably an overpriced sugar pill and you can get free sugar packs at any old coffee shop.
Sex is great and all but if thinking that saran wrap or a balloon is a good replacement for a condom, being sexually active is probably not a good idea for you. Don’t be irresponsible, it’s idiotic and immature. Ignore media perceptions about sexuality. Instead, we can use our own brains, be inquisitive, explore, and experiment. There’s also this great thing that’ll pretty much guarantee to improve sex, the mouth. Use it to communicate with partners and maximize pleasure.